Can we stop this great facade, this disingenuous effort bent on convincing the world that America has miraculously bridged the vast divide of gay and straight life.

This is the same America that cringed when "Brokeback Mountain," a 2005 film about a secretive and forbidden love affair between two cowboys ran roughshod over all Academy Award best-film nominations.

Plus, back in 1993, Tom Hanks had walked away with a top acting award for his role in "Philadelphia," regarding a gay lawyer suffering the torment of AIDS and employer scrutiny.

"The Confession" details McGreevey’s life from childhood angst until August 2004 when the Garden State governor voiced his unshocking to many New Jerseyans that he was a "gay American."

Secrets make you sick and when others find you out, especially in piranha-filled political waters, those private pleasures yield opportunity for blackmail, coercion and corruption even by partisans.

McGreevey admitted that his clandestine lifestyle of pre-governor sex stops at Garden State rest stops coupled with sex in dark alleys shadowed by the nation’s capital, in front of a synagogue no less, had reached a stage that could potentially compromise his political responsibilities.

There is an understanding here that American society in matters of the homosexual experience despises such intimacies and forces gays and lesbians into dark places of denial.

Whatever lessons are learned from the Gov. Jim McGreevey story, one must be that society must cultivate an atmosphere where individuals can be themselves without fear or shame.

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